Eryn’s Lady Guide [Fine Dining Etiquette]

Hello Dearies!


Weekend is almost here and do you have any special plan coming up? Today I am going to share with you about some basic

fine dining etiquette in exclusive restaurants.

Dressing Up!

Paris 2When you are going to fine dining at some exclusive restaurants, make sure you are putting on your best dress and make up. Plan ahead and press your clothes nicely. If you have no idea what to wear, a little black dress and a pair of heels would be perfect. Please remember, jeans and slippers are not considered appropriate dressing. Skirts that are too short and too tight would be inappropriate too.

At The Table.

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  • The most honored position is in the middle at each side of the table, with the most important guest seated immediately to the right of the host (women to the right of the host, and men to the right of the hostess). If there is a hosting couple, one will be seated on each side of the table.
  • The guests should order first and the host last. Ladies first and the men last.
  • No elbows on the table
  • No handbags and mobile phones on the table. Do not put your bags on the floor too! Order a separate chair or holder for your handbags.
  • Sit up straight (as if there’s an invisible book on your head)
  • DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT take pictures of your food.
  • Do not speak when you are eating. And when others are talking to you, you should put down your cutlery and attend to the speaker.
  • Do not reach across the table to get something, always ask someone politely to pass it to you.
  • Eat slowly.
  • Always say thank you to the waiter after any form of assistance.

Which Cutlery To Use?

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  • Always start from the outer cutlery first. Small knife for bread and butter, small cutlery for salad and starter. Bigger cutlery for main course.
  • Dining etiquette for eating salad. Never cut the lettuce in your salad. Fold it with your knife and fork into a little bundle that can be picked up with your fork.
Photo Credit: Image Resource Group
Photo Credit: Image Resource Group
  • If you haven’t finished with your food, cross your fork (tines down) and knife on the plate, angling them (/\) so they almost touch at the plate’s top center. This tells the waiter you’re just resting.
  • When you finished, always put the cutlery in 10:20 position.
  • Always use both hands to eat. Eating single-handed is considered rude.

Some Wine For You?

Photo Credits: Milestone Hotel
Photo Credits: Milestone Hotel

You may be offered several different white or red wines; and in this case, the finer red or white is usually served first, so that you may appreciate it best. A sweeter wine may be served with dessert.

  • Familiar yourself with some basic wine pairing guides. Such as white wines tend to pair better with lighter foods such as veggies and fish, the wine should match the colour of the meat, sparkling wine pairs with a wide variety of foods because it acts as a palate cleanser.
  • The person who ordered the wine gets the honour to try the wine. It is not for you to try and see if you like it or not. It is a procedure to taste and make sure the wine has not gone bad.
  • If you are dining in an exclusive restaurant, the waiter will pour the wine for you when you glass is empty. Even if the bottle is just beside you, try not to help yourself.
  • Always hold a wine glass or a champagne flute by the stem. It helps to keep your wine at the right temperature and also prevents your fingers from leaving smudgy prints on the glass too.
Photo Credit: Wine Folly
Photo Credit: Wine Folly

Who Pays?


  • Ladies, please do not shout or whistle to get the bill (not even when you are at kopitiam, thank you~). Please make a silent gesture in the air to let your waiter know that wish to pay.
  • When you are invited to a meal, the general rule is the host pays the bill.
  • If you are going out with your friends and you wish to split the bill, you can offer to pay first and settle the bill afterward. (Please do not pull out your calculator and start calculating who should be paying what…)
  • In general, a 10% tips is sufficient.

These are the basic etiquette when you go fine dining. Invest some time to read about general etiquette, it is definitely going to charm your dates and add a touch of class and elegance to you!


Good luck and have a perfect weekend!

Thank you so much for reading!

XOXO Eryn ❤


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